I’d love to tell you the magic secret to getting kids to go to bed (and asleep) on time, but there isn’t one to share. Assuming that “the kid’s” bed time is an appropriate time and he actually is tired, the best you can do is to be consistent. Give them enough time to get everything done before going to bed and tell them that big boys/girls go to bed on time and know they should get to sleep right away, because it helps them stay healthy and feel good the next day.

Then I’d say something along the lines of, “Okay, bed time is in xxxx minutes. You need to make sure you have your pajamas on, get your drink of water, feed your fish, etc., because once we say good night, you aren’t getting out of bed again, unless it is an emergency.” (you may find you need to specify what constitutes as an emergency).

Then, stick to it. (this is the hardest part!) My girls (now 13 & 17) tested me for the first few nights, but each time I would say, “I love you and I want to help you be a big girl now, so I have to say “no” and you have to go back to bed.” After the first few night, they got the message.

You can also try a reward/consequences system for going to bed on time. Keep us posted on how everything works out.

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