Because “do as I say, not as I do” doesn’t work.

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I come from the time where kids were raised in the way of “do as I say, not as I do.” And while that worked (kinda) for my parents, I don’t want that to be the way I parent. I mean, I know that sometimes the kid just have to do something, “because I said so,” however, if I want him to do something the “right way,” I feel I’d better be providing a good example of what the “right way” is.

Want him to eat his vegetables? I’d better be eating mine.

Want him to watch less TV and read more? I’d better have a book in my hand, more often than the remote.

Want him to do his chores, before playtime? Then the kitchen should be clean, before I logon to Facebook.

Want him to turn off the video games and go outside and play? I’d better be turning off the computer and getting some sort of physical activity in as well.

I could go on and on, with example after example – but I think you get what I’m trying to say.

You see, as easy as it is to say, “I’m the parent, and you do what I tell you to do,” It’s easier – in the long run – to provide a good example of what “doing the right thing is.” If you want kids to choose to do the right thing – you have to show them how, in addition to telling them.

Childhood Adventures

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The other night, I was watching The Goonies (Best. Movie. Ever.) and it had me all nostalgic for the adventures of my childhood. When I was a kid, we used to trek all over the neighborhood. All was fair game, nowhere off limits – as long as we were home before the streetlights came on.

Unfortunately, these days, I feel like we can’t even let our kids out of our sights, for fear that they’ll be taken, or even killed. Watching the news lately, makes me feel like the bad guys have won. I hate that my son can’t have the same type of wonderful, adventure-filled childhood that I did. I hate it. And, I don’t know what to do about it. How can I let him have the space to grow, without compromising his safety? I don’t want to be a helicopter parent, but I don’t want him in danger either. What do I do? What do you do, to ensure your children’s safety, but still let them have “fun?”

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5 Tips for the Working Mom Looking for Work-Life Balance

It’s hard being a working mom. Millions of women, do it every day, but figuring out a way to balance work and home life, escapes most of us.

Between meeting deadlines for work, caring for their children, spouse and home – we certainly have a lot on our plates. So much so, that at times, it feels like we’re tying to keep all the plates spinning at the same time. It even seems like we’re working two, three or even four jobs at once!

Some days are better than others, when you may feel like you have everything smoothly, and other days you may feel like nothing is going right.

But with careful preparation and scheduling, working moms can make your days – and nights – run a bit more seamlessly.

Here are a few tips, to help you out:

  1. Try not to bring your work home with you. Keeping evenings and weekends somewhat “work-free,” will give you time to get those household tasks done and spend some time with your family, rather it’s watching a movie, playing a game, or going to the park or library.
  2. Prepare meals ahead of time. You can freeze them, and use them for meals during the work week.
  3. Pack lunches and lay out clothing, the night before. That will make your mornings a little more stress-free.
  4. Put essential items (car keys, purse, briefcase, book bags, etc.) in the same place, every evening. You’ll be able to locate them easier, during the morning frenzy.
  5. Be consistent with the bedtime schedule and routine. That way, your children know that it’s almost bedtime.

As working moms, we may never find the formula for a perfect work-life balance, but with a little practice and consistency, things should definitely become a little easier.

Have any tips to add? Let me know in the comments section!

Awesome Resource for Parents of Driving Teens

The weather here in Michigan has been rather wet and miserable lately. Yesterday, on my way home, I saw a teen driver almost get into an accident.  He was looking down at his cell phone when the light turned, and couldn’t stop in time, due to the wet roads.

Let me tell you, it scared me. In six short years, the kid will begin driving. Six. I just hope that’s enough time to instill in him the knowledge he needs to drive safely.

Car crashes are the number one killer of teens. Becoming a safe driver takes years of experience. By being actively involved in their teen’s driving, parents help increase their teen’s safety.

Currently, there is a campaign called the Checkpoints program, that educates parents on how to keep their teen drivers safe while, on the road. This program not only offers helpful tips and facts, but also a free online, interactive Parent/Teen Driving Agreement that can be customized specifically to each of your readers and their teens. Checkpoints has been tested and is effective in helping teens become safer drivers.

Help your teen become a safer independent driver. Create a parent-teen driving agreement today.