I come from the time where kids were raised in the way of “do as I say, not as I do.” And while that worked (kinda) for my parents, I don’t want that to be the way I parent. I mean, I know that sometimes the kid just have to do something, “because I said so,” however, if I want him to do something the “right way,” I feel I’d better be providing a good example of what the “right way” is.
Want him to eat his vegetables? I’d better be eating mine.
Want him to watch less TV and read more? I’d better have a book in my hand, more often than the remote.
Want him to do his chores, before playtime? Then the kitchen should be clean, before I logon to Facebook.
Want him to turn off the video games and go outside and play? I’d better be turning off the computer and getting some sort of physical activity in as well.
I could go on and on, with example after example – but I think you get what I’m trying to say.
You see, as easy as it is to say, “I’m the parent, and you do what I tell you to do,” It’s easier – in the long run – to provide a good example of what “doing the right thing is.” If you want kids to choose to do the right thing – you have to show them how, in addition to telling them.