To My Husband on Our 10th Wedding Anniversary

Bree-MenDale-GlennMy love, it’s been 10 wonderful, stressful, adventurous, fun-filled, crazy years since we said “I do.” And, not a day goes by, that I don’t express thanks to the powers that be, for you.

We’ve had good times, and we’ve had not-so-good times, but in the end, the good always outweighs the bad. And that’s what’s important, right? That, and the fact that we’re better together, than we could ever be apart.

You have stood by me, despite my “crazy ways,” and I thank you for always being a shoulder when I need it; and for giving me a “kick in the ass” when I need one as well.

No one could ever understand me, like you do. Nor, as I do you. You are truly my best friend.

I’m sure, that like me, every woman thinks her man is the best in the world. But I also know, without a doubt, that you are the best for me. And for that, I thank you.

I also thank you for being such an understand, attentive and hands-on husband and father. Watching you with our son sometimes makes me so happy that I could cry tears of joy.

With so many “losers” out there, KNOW how lucky I am, to have found a winner to share my life with. To have found you.

So, I say to you, on our 10th wedding anniversary… Thank you, thank you, thank you for simply being you.

I love you, so very much.

Bree

36 Date Night Ideas

Date Night

When you enter the land of parenthood, date nights  (and other fun things) become a thing of the past. A myth.

But, even though it’s hard, it’s very important to maintain a good great relationship with your spouse. When kids see their parents happy, it makes them happy. And, it’s been my experience, that happy kids are better behaved kids.

With that in mind, I’ve compiled a list date night ideas. The list is varied so I’m sure you’ll find an idea you like!

  1. Arcade
  2. Art Class
  3. Art Museum
  4. Batting Cage
  5. Beer or Wine Tasting
  6. Bike Ride
  7. Boating
  8. Bowling
  9. Comedy Club
  10. Concert
  11. Cooking Lessons
  12. Couples Mani Pedi
  13. Couples Massage
  14. Dance Lessons
  15. Dinner Cruise
  16. Drive-in Movie
  17. Go Karts
  18. Hiking
  19. History Museum
  20. Horseback Riding
  21. Host a Dinner Party
  22. Indoor Rock Climbing
  23. Jazz Club
  24. Karaoke
  25. Laser Tag
  26. Miniature Golf
  27. Movies
  28. Mystery Dinner
  29. Out for ice cream
  30. Paint Ball
  31. Picnic
  32. Roller Skating
  33. Science Museum
  34. Street Fairs/Art Fairs
  35. Symphony
  36. Tennis

I can’t wait to try some of these out! What are some of your favorite date night activities?

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Keeping the Flames Alive: The Importance of Intimacy In Marriage

A couple of years ago, I wrote this as a guest post for A Proverbs Wife. I thought with Valentine’s Day coming up, today was a good time to re-post.

Couple holding hands.

Intimacy is one of – if not the most – important aspects of a good marriage. While I recognize the importance of sex, in a marriage, that’s not all intimacy is about; it’s also about spending time together, getting to know each other, on a deeper level.

Let’s face it, marriage is hard. Between taking care of the kids, work and keeping house – making time for each other often falls by the way-side.

A good way to keep intimacy alive, in your marriage, is by purposefully scheduling alone time with one another.  Date nights, lunch dates and weekend trips (when you can find a sitter), are all great ways to do this. When scheduling your “dates,” try to make it a time when you know you have the full attention of each other and can really talk and connect with one another.

Even scheduling time for sex, with your spouse, can help. I know it takes the spontaneity out of it, but with all you have going on, it may be the only thing that works. If scheduling isn’t your thing, try making a promise to each other, that you’ll be intimate at least x times per week.

Its easy let the mundane tasks of everyday life; get in the way of spending time with your spouse. But, like everything else in a marriage, cultivating intimacy, requires work.

A few resources I recommend are:

Shannon Ethridge, author and advocate for healthy sexuality and spirituality. She has written several books on intimacy.

Dr. Gary Chapman, internationally respected marriage and family life expert. Dr. Chapman is the author of many books, including The Five Love Languages.

Dr. Kevin Leman, author, speaker, founder & president of Couples of Promise. He has written books on marriage, children and family.

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I’m a lucky lady…

No, really.

I am one of the luckiest women in the world, because I get to spend the rest of my life with this yummy piece of chocolaty goodness. (Seriously, isn’t he just simply delicious?)

And on this day nine years ago, I was lucky enough to become his wife.

There are so many reasons I love this man (aside from him being super-hot :P):

  • He’s a good listener. Whenever I have a problem, he’s always there to help talk me through it and find a solution.
  • He’s an excellent father.  He and the kid have such a special relationship, that sometimes I’m a bit jealous of. And, even though it sometimes it feels like I have two children, the way they interact and “play” with each other is inspiring and it makes me love him so much more.
  • His heart. He loves me – and all my crazy – with all his heart.
  • He’s hilarious. His sense of humor is epic, and he has a knack for making people laugh, no matter the situation.
  • He is generous. Sometimes to a fault. He’d give you the shirt off his back, if you needed it.
  • He is my best friend.  The past nine years have had their ups and downs (marriage ain’t easy, y’all), I wouldn’t trade them for anything. Because I’ve had my best friend by my side, the entire ride.

Happy anniversary, baby! I love you so very much.