Hey, mama! Think you’re too busy to make friends? Or, if you’re like me – a total introvert – you find it hard to do so. There are many opportunities throughout your day to make friends.
- Work – Making friends at work should be the easiest, since it’s where you spend most of your time. Take time to get to know your co-workers. You may be surprised by how much you have in common with some of them. Look for common interests, fashion styles, etc. Strike up a conversation in the elevator, or in the cafeteria. You never know, your new best friend could be sitting in an office just two floors down.
- Church – If you attend church together, you already have one thing in common: your faith. Build on that. Do you both have kids that are around the same age? Are your husbands friends? Maybe invite her family over for a cookout, or movie/game night.
- The Gym – While most people don’t go to the gym to socialize, there are still opportunities to do so. Does she have a physique or workout routine you’d like to emulate? Maybe strike up a conversation in the locker room (not when naked, because that’s weird), it’s possible you can become workout buddies, leading to a friendship outside the gym.
- PTA/Other School Committees – Your kids are already friends – or at least they probably know each other. Start off with playdates to see if you have anything in common. I know it sounds like you’re interviewing for friends – in a way, you are. You have kids who go to school together, so it’s safe to assume you live in the same neighborhood. Invite her over for coffee, maybe form a book club with other PTA/school moms.
- Book Club – Are you an avid reader like me? Find out if anyone you know is a member of a book club, ask if you can join. Or, search online for book clubs in your area. You already have your love of literature in common – maybe there’s more.
You see, it doesn’t have to be hard to make new friends. You just have to put some effort into it – just like you would building any other relationship.
What about you? Where did you meet your BFF?
I come from the time where kids were raised in the way of “do as I say, not as I do.” And while that worked (kinda) for my parents, I don’t want that to be the way I parent. I mean, I know that sometimes the kid just have to do something, “because I said so,” however, if I want him to do something the “right way,” I feel I’d better be providing a good example of what the “right way” is.
Want him to eat his vegetables? I’d better be eating mine.
Want him to watch less TV and read more? I’d better have a book in my hand, more often than the remote.
Want him to do his chores, before playtime? Then the kitchen should be clean, before I logon to Facebook.
Want him to turn off the video games and go outside and play? I’d better be turning off the computer and getting some sort of physical activity in as well.
I could go on and on, with example after example – but I think you get what I’m trying to say.
You see, as easy as it is to say, “I’m the parent, and you do what I tell you to do,” It’s easier – in the long run – to provide a good example of what “doing the right thing is.” If you want kids to choose to do the right thing – you have to show them how, in addition to telling them.
Have you guys heard of The Tiny House Movement?
“Simply put it is a social movement where people are downsizing the space that they live in. The typical American home is around 2600 square feet, while the typical small or tiny house is around 100-400 square feet. Tiny Houses come in all shapes, sizes and forms but they focus on smaller spaces and simplified living.” – The Tiny House Life
I am totally obsessed.
Not sure if I could ever live in one, with both the hubs and the kid. But, if it was just me? I’d totally go for it.
There’s just something so minimalist and simplistic about it all.
A simplicity I crave.
With all the crap we collect, how awesome would it be to just chuck almost all of it and live small?
Even if it doesn’t interest you, like it does me, you should totally check it out. It’s so fascinating.
I’ve been a fan of Jessica Turner’s blog, The Mom Creative, for a long time. When I found out she was writing a book, I couldn’t wait to read it.
One of the main reasons I was excited to be a part the launch team for The Fringe Hours: Making Time for You is because Jessica and I are very similar in that we’re both mom bloggers who work out of home full time, in PR and marketing. I was very interested to take a peek into her life and find out how she “does it all.” (Spoiler: she doesn’t.)
The book is broken up into four sections: Explore, Discover, Maximize, and Live Well. Each section is chocked full of information to help you.
What I love about this book, is that Jessica not only gives you the information, she also made it interactive. She poses questions to the reader and leaves space for them to answer. It is those questions that I found the most helpful. They weren’t softball questions. They were deep, emotion-stirring questions that really made me stop and think before answering. It is in those questions that I found out many things about myself. Things that I hadn’t allowed myself think about before.
My advanced reading copy is marked up with notes in the margins, circled paragraphs and highlighted sentences. I just know this book will be one that I refer to when I feel myself getting too “busy” to make time for me.
After reading The Fringe Hours: Making Time for You, I developed a list of goals I want to accomplish:
1. Wake up earlier
2. Take lunch – away from my desk
3. Always have a book with me
4. Go to bed earlier
5. Begin journaling regularly
6. Be intentional
7. Spend less time on social media
8. Learn to ask for help
9. Learn to get proper rest
I cannot recommend this book enough. It’s for every woman – not just wives and moms. There are tons of books that tell you to take time for yourself; The Fringe Hours: Making Time for You tells you how. It goes beneath the surface to find out what you need to do, in order to find those little “pockets of time.” Time for you.
Visit www.FringeHours.com to learn more and find some really cool resources.
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Happy MLK Day! When you have an extra 20 minutes, or so… you should really check this out.
Happy, happy birthday to my best friend, my wonderful husband. You are an awesome husband and a wonderful father. I love you and look forward to celebrating many more birthdays with you!
Happy New Year, friends! I hope you all had a wonderful holiday.
I just wanted to take a minute to introduce you all to our new family member, Johnny.
Johnny is the kid‘s new puppet that he got for Christmas. Originally, he asked for a vintroliquist dummy. However, those are super creepy and totally freak me out. So, we compromised.
The Kid loves him and he is now our second son.
Johnny’s new outfit. #puppet #puppetlife #TheKid A photo posted by Bree Glenn (@breeglenn) on