Feminist Boymom

Mommy and The KidStereotypically speaking, feminists are normally portrayed as being anti-marriage, anti-family and anti-baby. Personally, I disagree. I’m sure there are some who don’t want marriage and kids, but the same could be said for every type of woman.

You see, I’m a feminist.

You’re not? That’s OK. Mind if I ask you why?

I mean, the definition of a feminist is someone who “advocates for social, political, legal and economic rights for women equal to those of men.”

And, how could anyone not want that?

As a feminist, and a boymom, I feel I have a responsibility to teach him:

  • that little girls can do anything he can do. I mean, they may do it differently, but they (we) can most certainly get it done.
  • that as a boy, he is no better (or no worse) than his girl counterparts.
  • to treat them with respect, and expect to be treated the same in return.

This is something I work hard at, every day. I want to make sure I’m drivnig the message home.

What about you? Are you a feminist boymom? How do you make sure your boy(s) embrace an “equality for women” mindset?


Somewhat related – Mocha Dad recently wrote a post, that I think every boydad should read: Fathers Must Teach Their Sons That Rape is Unacceptable.  It’s in response to incredibly skewed, victim-blaming media coverage of the Steubenville rape trial. 


  1. says

    You know it’s interesting b/c I wrote this post about not being a Feminist a few weeks ago & the major feedback I got was that Feminism is hard to define & everyone has their own views of it. by this definition than I am -by default- a Feminist. Regardless of that I will always be a “boymom” & I LOVE what you have here in our responsibility to teach our boys these things. I’m trying really hard to incorporate these truths into our life, & sometimes wonder if it’s getting through. Hopefully! It’s not the oldest one I’m worried about it…it’s that crazy baby of mine. At only, 3, I’ll have to just be patient & keep teaching. Thanks for the reminders here!!


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