The one where I bare my (mommy) soul.

frustration

I am at my wits end. No. Scratch that. I passed the ‘wits end’ stage a long time ago. I just don’t know what to do with this boy. I know he knows the right thing to do. What I don’t know is if he doesn’t do it because his mind just won’t let him, or if he just doesn’t give a crap. He’s just six-years-old. Should he really be at the “I don’t give a crap” stage in life, yet?

I don’t know. But, what I do know is that his horrible behavior is putting a strain on everything and everyone around him. He’s like a poison. Toxic. I should feel bad, even thinking these things. But, I don’t. And, they’re true.  From the time he wakes up, to the time he goes to sleep, he’s in full-on terror mode.

I know it’s probably our fault, that he’s the way he is. It’s always the parents’ fault, right? But, I can’t fathom what we could’ve done to cause him to behave so badly. According to reports, from our families, both my husband and I were fairly mild-mannered children.

It seems, that with him, things get worse, the older he gets. I thought kids were supposed to grow out of this stuff?

And, nothing we seem to do – in the way of discipline – seems to work. Timeouts, spankings, yelling, talking, punishments, etc. You name it, and we’ve tried it – to no avail. And, we HATE yelling, or any other form of aggressive discipline. But, they’re only so many ineffective timeouts we can take.

We’re running out of options, here. I’m not sure if it’s an attentional thing like ADD, or what. But, something’s got to give.

A while back, Legacy Publishing Company reached out to me, to review their Total Transformation Program. I, of course, jumped at the chance. Because you know… we’re desperate over here. But, when it came in the mail, the kid was in a good place, behavior-wise. So, I kind of forgot about it.

But, now that things have gone to complete and utter poo – again –  I’m diving in head first.

You know, for the first time – in a long time – I’m feeling kind of optimistic. It feels good to be proactive – instead of reactive.

I’ll be posting updates, regularly, to let you know how it’s working.

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Comments

  1. says

    hmm, let me know how that works out for ya! Maybe he is just going through a stage. Especially since he is the only child you can’t really compare his behavior to your other kids, kwim? I know our 7 year old gives us the run for the money ALL the time… and parenting these days seems to be way different then how we were brought up. I’m curious to hear if that program works. I’ve heard about it on the radio. But I’m one of those “yeah right” people that is old school, lol

  2. says

    oh Bree, I am SO SO SO sorry. I often feel this way about our little R2. He can be so defiant so often. Yesterday, he had a FULL OUT, on the floor, writhing & kicking temper tantrum for 15 minutes straight! He then ended it by peeing from the top of the stairs, spraying down like a sprinkler. so, yeah, i get it!!!

    One book I have heard is good but have never read is James Dobson’s Bringing up Boys. A few people have recommended it to me when I’ve lamented my R2 problems. The other I’d recommend which I shockingly forget to do is just to pray….maybe set aside 2-3 minutes each day to pray over or with him for good choices. I did this much more often with R1 who is much more mild mannered but I often wonder if it worked a bit better. lol.

    ((((hug))))

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